Dating Italian men is certainly an appealing concept. Italians are generally known for being warm, welcoming, and passionate people.
Better yet, people of Mediterranean heritage are arguably among the most attractive in the world. Dating Italian men makes a prominent feature on many female travellers to-do lists when travelling to Italy.
Dating in Italy seems just as appealing as a trip to the Colosseum, or uncovering where to eat the best pizza in Naples. A British or American guy may invite you over to Netflix and chill.
But an Italian man will offer to teach you to cook carbonara while you drink exquisite local wine. Or maybe he will invite you on a late-night picnic by the sea. As far as romance and charm factors go, Italian men, top the leaderboards.
- 1 Dating Italian Men
- 2 Things to Know About Dating in Italy
- 3 Hilarious Encounters with Italian Men
Dating Italian Men
Dating Italian men can be a different experience depending on whether you are dating an Italian American man in the west, or you are dating an Italian in his home country. Culture and tradition is one thing that has an influence on someone’s outlook and dating attitudes. But so too does the country that they have been bought up in.
Things to Know About Dating in Italy
You should be open-minded when dating Italian men, as with dating men from anywhere. A person’s upbringing, personal values, and education play a huge role in their views of relationships.
That being said, there are some common cultural traits. These are discussed here.
If you are planning a trip to Italy, you might be curious about what Italian men are like and where to find them. This post has you covered!
Italian men are aware of their appeal
It is worth noting that many Italian men, particularly those still in their motherland, are aware that many foreign women find them charming. They take great pride in their Casanova reputation and believe that women find them utterly irresistible.
Sadly, some men do have less than respectable views about western women. A fair few of them have had experiences with western girls. They meet them while the girls are vacationing in Italy and have a summer romance whereby the girls are enthralled by their charm and exotic appearance.
So, many may believe that western girls will jump into bed with them immediately. That is not to say that casual dating is bad.
Not at all. You do you. Just be mindful of how genuine the charm actually is when your new Mediterranean beau tells you how captivated he is by you.
Italian men are family orientated
Italians are very family orientated and close, even with non-immediate members of their extended family. The nice thing about dating Italian men is that they are generally very thoughtful and inclusive.
Italians will typically go to great efforts to try and make you feel welcome by introducing you to their friends and family. This is the rule, not the exception.
Views on intercultural dating are worth noting too. Most Italians are open to dating outside of their culture. This is very different to say, neighbouring Greece, where doing so is something of a taboo.
Sure, there may be the occasional older relative that is less than thrilled about a “foreign” influence, but it is not typical. The same could be said about people from anywhere. Italian families are usually happy if their son brings home “una bella ragazza” regardless of where she is from.
How to meet Italian men
It is relatively easy to meet and date Italian men in Italy. Firstly, Italians are often more forward than their western counterparts.
If you spend any amount of time in Italy, you will probably meet a few friendly locals with very little effort. More than likely, you will be approached once or twice.
Tinder exists in Italy. However, it is not very widely used.
This is mostly seen as a hook-up app, and most of the men using it are looking for fun with tourists, not long-term relationships. That may or may not be what you are looking for.
The best way of dating Italian men, if you are looking for something with substance, is to try and meet people the old-fashioned way.
Plenty of events are hosted on sites like Meetup and Couchsurfing. Head to a social event or a language exchange and see who you may meet.
Io, Mammeta e tu
Italian men are known for their strong bonds with their mothers. It doesn’t matter if Giuseppe is 40 years of age, his Mum is still likely to be popping round to his place every couple of days with trays full of home-baked pies and leftover food.
Besides, she needs to come to his place regularly so that she can do his laundry! Italian men are still treated like little darling children by their mothers up until they marry.
The strong bond that Italian men have with their mothers can be offputting for some. This is very different from western culture whereby men are typically more independent.
Italian men who have lived overseas or grown-up outside of Italy may not be so dependent on their mothers. It is worth understanding what someone’s views on gender roles are before you seriously get involved with them.
Does your love interest expect that women should do all of the cooking and domestic tasks around the house? Or do they think everything should be equal in a romantic partnership?
Location, Location, Location!
You may notice a difference in how often you get approached, and in men’s attitudes and personalities, depending on where in Italy they are from. The culture between Northern Italy and Southern Italy is very different.
The north of Italy is more comparable to Northern and Western Europe. Meanwhile, Southern Italy feels much more Mediterranean. You compare the culture here to that of Greece.
Italian men in the south are even less apprehensive about approaching women. Furthermore, they may find you even more interesting as this part of the country sees fewer tourists.
Are Italian men womanisers?
It is no secret that Italian men can be flirtatious. Indeed, the general stereotype of an Italian man is that of Casanova – a charming, attractive man with many lovers.
But this is a negative stereotype and generalisation. Values around faithfulness, women, etc vary from person to person.
Are all British men perfect partners that never cheat or disrespect their wives and partners? I don’t think so.
Many Italians are in committed relationships and cannot imagine doing something to hurt their partners. It is offensive to suggest that someone’s culture or ethnicity influences their morals.
A cultural exchange
Dating Italian men is an opportunity to learn far more about Italian culture, food, and life than you ever could on a two-week Italy itinerary. He can introduce you to new dishes, drinks, musicians, and movies.
You can teach him about your country too, and have fun learning about the differences in each other’s backgrounds and upbringings. If you are dating an Italian in Italy, they can also take you to hidden restaurants and bars that you would have otherwise never found.
Hilarious Encounters with Italian Men
Italian men make great romantic partners. At the same time, some of their approaches to women are quite comical from the outside looking in.
A handful of funny stories about encounters with Italian men are detailed below.
Hey Pretty Lady… Oh, Wait…You Old
It’s summer 2018. I’m living in Sicily.
I’m sitting on platform one of Catania Centrale waiting for the morning train to depart for Syracuse. I am mid-way through wolfing down a chocolate croissant.
Being the clumsy, awkward, British buffoon that I am, I’m sporting a chocolate sauce mustache with croissant flakes in my hair. Croissant flakes are down my shirt, in my eyebrows. Croissant flakes are pretty much everywhere!
I peer around to make sure that no one is watching me devour this croissant-like I was an ogre, and notice a Sicilian guy staring at me. Horrified that someone seems so transfixed by my croissant gobbling, I make a conscious effort to eat like less of a trollop as I continue.
The next thing I know, this guy has migrated to the spot right beside me and is asking for a cigarette lighter. I replied and told him, sorry, but I don’t smoke.
Now that he has an “in” to talk to the girl with chocolate all around her mouth (but arguably questionable standards of women!), he tells me that I am beautiful. He then asks me “quanti anni ha?” (“how old are you?”).
Our conversation follows like this:
Him: Quanti anni ha? (How old are you?)
Me: Io ventotto anni (I am 28!)
Him: *Loud dramatic gasp like when the murderer is revealed at the end of Scooby-Doo”
Him: *In English* You said that correctly in Italian, yes? You are 28?
Me: Yes exactly
Him: Oh. My. God. Oh my god!
Me: Well I don’t think 28 is really that old
Him: You just don’t look SO old. I am 22. You are too old for me.
Me: Oh well I wasn’t interested
Him: Bye madam!
At least I could go on to eat my croissant in peace. But that was honestly probably the most extreme reaction to being 28 that a person could ever encounter. The man could not get away fast enough!
But Wait… I Have Oil!
I was living in Naples (yes, Naples is safe). I decided to take a few day trips from Naples and then treat myself to a few days in Lake Como. Early in the morning, I wandered around the lake to take some photographs and explore Como town before the crowds.
When I sat down in a local place to have an early lunch, a Sicilian man plonked down beside me uninvited. I had my weekend tote bag with me and he asked if I was leaving so soon.
I told him that I had to get back to Naples, to which he offered that I could stay with him. He said that he would even give me a massage, since my bag looked so heavy to carry around!
I politely declined and said I had to leave to get a train soon. “But wait!!!! I have oil!!!!” he exclaimed in response. He yelled it plenty loud enough for pretty much everyone in the place to hear him and turn around.
The Complimentary Tour Guide
I was living in Naples and had been for quite some time. I worked from home a lot and decided to go out for a walk.
Italians aren’t really big on the whole “sit down” coffee culture. It is more of a “chug down your espresso while standing and then be off” kind of place.
I would feel claustrophobic if I spent too much time in my apartment. So, ventured out of my lair to go and get some cakes from the local bakery.
As I was strolling along, some middle-aged balding Italian man latched on to me. He immediately recognised that I was foreign.
He asked the usual “What’s your name? Where are you from?” I just blanked him and stared forward as if he didn’t even exist.
This technique usually works in getting men to leave me alone. Act like Bruce Willis’ wife in the sixth sense. Unfortunately, this dude was persistent.
The older guy had clearly just come back from the supermarket. He was walking along swinging a bag filled with milk and groceries. A huge French baguette was protruding out the end of it.
As we walked along the seafront of Chiaia district, he started explaining the sights around me and their history. As I picked up my pace, he picked up his.
He was recalling dates and events so well that I thought that I was on a Rick Steves walking tour. After a few minutes, I abruptly turned around and asked him to leave me alone.
He looked shocked, adjusted his glasses, and yelled “WELL YOU ARE TOO SMALL ANYWAY”. Excellent.
Lost in Your Eyes
I’m shopping for groceries in Catania, Sicily. As I stand by the fruit and vegetables examining the quality of the tomatoes, some guy sees me and leans within an inch of my face. As I almost give myself whiplash moving my head backward, he says “wowwww”
I look at him puzzled, and he exclaims “Your eyes! They are so blue! Are they real?” I respond and tell him that they are.
“They so blue like the sea!” he exclaims excitedly. “I want to swim in your eyes, to be lost in your eyes”
Umm okay. I back away slowly clutching my tomatoes. “So blue!” he is still muttering.
In Naples and Southern Italy especially, you are likely to hear breathy mutterings of “Bellissima” from the men that walk by. It can be a little unnerving and strange.
Are you supposed to continue on as if you never heard it? It seems that way, and that these men are purely showing their appreciation for female beauty.
There are rude and kind people everywhere. In general, travelling through Italy is something of a confidence boost.
It is not usually a creepy, uncomfortable approach from Italian men. Even if the locals do not approach you with a cheesy chat-up line, their comments of “bellissima!” or “Ciao Bella!”, are seldom ill-intentioned. Their glances and prolonged looks are more of a compliment and appreciation for beauty, rather than anything untoward.
Have you had any experience dating Italian men? Alternatively, have you had any comical encounters with the locals while travelling in Italy?
I would love to hear your perspective! If you need anything, please don’t hesitate to leave me a comment below. You might also enjoy reading these quotes about Italy.
Safe travels! Andiamo! Melissa xo